I’ve been out for almost 7 years on and off. It hasn’t been easy and there are times where I’ve gone back in due to anxiety (Who wouldn’t have anxiety from being out?).
It hasn’t been easy in the beginning, but in reality, I haven’t lost anything because of it. My circumstances are a bit different from most people (I am my own boss, so no worries there). But, honestly I am lucky, or perhaps the world doesn’t seem so dim as I used to think it was and I have a supportive group of friends and a partner who very much accepts me for who I am. None of them are zoo.
If anything, coming out has given me the courage to do many other things in my life that I had originally though that I’d never be able to do and it has been smooth sailing from there. It may hurt for a bit with the negative messages you get from random strangers online, but who cares? They don’t know you, and if they automatically hate you based just on your attraction, are they really worth worrying about? People are going to hate you for one reason or another, I’d rather be hated for being who I am rather than being hated so much that I feel like I can’t be myself at any point in time.
Granted, there are precautions one must take before coming out though and I’ll be either writing or making a video about that soon.
Never feel like a freak for what you feel. I support you, and I’m sure if you keep looking, you will find many other caring and compassionate people who do as well.
I think you are fairly correct on that. The question that has bugged me over the years though is: Why not call homo/hetero/bi/pansexuality, homo/hetero/bi/panphilia? Why does orientation have to revolve around sex if there are romantic feelings as well?
Another odd thing is, if all we need to do is “love” an animal, then that would make most people zoophiles under that definition alone. The only reason I feel that using the word “sexual” to describe an orientation is weird because there are people who are asexual and don’t have a desire for sex in relationships, but still want romantic love/affection. Sexuality and love is very fluid and fascinating.
That is a rather complicated matter and I’m not entirely sure how to answer that because I’ve been attracted to animals ever since puberty. I suppose that would be the main factor, being attracted since you were old enough to be attracted to anything or having an unchanging long term romantic and sexual attraction. If you just happened to stumble upon some porn and have never previously thought you were attracted to animals, then most likely, it is a fetish or kink. If you are attracted to the idea of people having sex with animals, but aren’t actually attracted to the animals themselves, than it’s a fetish or kink for sure.
Having a fetish for something isn’t necessarily a bad thing, however those of us who do have a sexual/romantic orientation towards animals often get lumped into the same category as people who do have a fetish/kink. We’ve felt this way since we were very young and have to struggle with this every day, especially if we happen to be brave enough to come out about it.
Gaining rights for us isn’t about getting to have mutual sexual contact with animals as much as it is about how we as a minority are treated in society, including the fact that our sexual/romantic orientation isn’t covered under the the same laws that protect the LGBTQ community from discrimination at school/work and other areas. Most people automatically assume that you have to be sexually active with an animal to be zoosexual, when it’s far from the truth. Because of this, coming out as a zoosexual in of itself is risky business. There is just so much imbalance with civil rights either way.
I am trying to get more insight as to what it is like to deal with being a zoo when you are female.
I think the most obvious issue for me is the fact that I often get bombarded by men who think that women and animals together is “hot or “kinky”, when all I want to do is live out my life without getting a bunch of prodding questions or sexual harassment from dudes who are objectifying my sexual orientation as a fetish.
Honestly, this is the only problem that I’ve come across so far. If there are any others, please let me know.
Same as I have been posting. I just notice there seem to be a lot of porn blogs that have followed me and I wanted to let those people know that there won’t be any porn posted on my blog is all and that isn’t what this blog is about.
Just for the record, if you are following this blog because you think I’ll be posting porn or sex tips, you will be sorely disappointed. This isn’t that kind of blog.
So, confusing week or so since I’ve been on here.
I was wondering, as a male, if females are as interested in incest, beastiality, bdsm, (insert something kinky and taboo), etc as males are.
Because either its heavily skewed in the male direction, or all the females hide it for some reason.
Admittedly, there are a good number of people who hide what they like for fear of ridicule, but…?
Anyone have an answer?
You’d hide what you do too if every male who was into it pestered you to join them sexually or pestered to watch you or hear about your “experiences. You’d hide too if most everyone treated your sexual orientation as a fetish. You’d hide too if you were treated as a object and not a human being.
The difference between humping for pleasure and humping for dominance is simple.
Have you ever seen a dog hump for dominance with his penis showing? No because when dogs hump for dominance, thier penises don’t show because they are not sexually aroused. Dogs who are sexually aroused will start to get an erection before the humping even takes place most of the time.
Also, that argument fails when it comes to other animals. Horses don’t hump for dominance. Neither do many other animals that are able to mate with people.
I hit over 100 followers last night apparently, went to bed with 97 and woke up with 103! Thanks, whoever you are!
That sounds more like a fetish than a sexual orientation to me. I wouldn’t know anything about viewing sex with animals as a fetish since I’ve been attracted to animals since around puberty and is not a fetish or kink to me.
It’s crazy how we live in a world where someone into beastiality gets more negative attention than a murderer.